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Hello. I'm Rose, 20-something Nebraskan. If you want to know more feel free to ask, I'm not going to waste space here.
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Marsha P. Johnson, transgender gay rights activist (1944 – 1992)

Little known (or recognized) in the Stonewall Rebellion that launched gay liberation, was the role of Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera. These two transgender activists were on the leading edge of the rebellion, battling the police, and coining the term “Whose Streets, Our Streets!”

Marsha co-founded STAR (Street Transvestite/Transgender Action Revolutionaries) with Sylvia Rivera, to help aid, feed and shelter queer/trans people without homes and those who’d runaway.

Marsha was found floating in the Hudson River shortly after the 1992 Pride March; the police declined to investigate and ruled her death suicide. Marsha P. Johnson remains a legendary figure in the fight for queer liberation as part of the struggle for racial and economic justice.

TL;DR: Arguably one of the most important people in the history of the (USA) gay rights movement. (Stonewall Riots? Kind of a big deal.) Racism and transmisogyny continue.

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Valerie Spencer: Why she kicks ass

  • She is a transgender advocate and educator, works in the arena of social services, specifically representing HIV prevention and service delivery as it relates to the transgender community.
  • She has worked with a number of organizations and agencies, including health departments, universities and developed Los Angeles County’s first curriculum addressing transgender issues from the perspective of people of color. She has also presented to community groups and at conferences around the country.
  • She co-developed and co-facilitated the Transgender Leadership Academy; a collaborative effort between the Los Angeles Transgender Youth Consortium and the FTM Alliance. “This was a ground-breaking effort to build our leaders. In the past, transgender leadership came into being by way of osmosis. This was a chance to take all of the information that we as leaders have gained, share it in a constructive manner and shape our mavericks of the future.”

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Two trans women incarcerated in the R.J. Donovan Correctional Facility in San Diego County have been on hunger strike for over a week in an attempt to be allowed to share a cell together. Because they are trans, prison officials refuse to take them off single-cell status. Presumably, they have both been restricted to being in single cells to prevent them from having to share a cell with a man, however, it’s clear that this is not for their own protection when there are two of them and they want to share a cell together.

According to a statement released yesterday, the hunger strike began on Friday September 21st and they are asking their supporters to call in and help:

Call Warden Paramo the Richard J. Donovan Correctional Facility: (619) 661-6500

Demand that Eva Contreraz (C-45857) and Catarine LaPre (K-67313) be take off single-cell status and be allowed to share a cell. Demand that an end to the discriminatory housing policy against trans women in the correctional facility.

Isolation has commonly been a discriminatory practice prison’s have used against trans prisoners, and many confine trans prisoners to solitary confinement in order to avoid having to place them with either men or women. Often, such solitary confinement ends up being over extended periods of time or even throughout the duration of incarceration, despite many indications that extended solitary confinement can cause lasting psychological damage and may be considered cruel and unusual punishment.

Being restricted to a single cell appears to be a different practice than solitary confinement. Nonetheless, it is a discriminatory practice where trans prisoners are subjected to additional punishment that other prisoners do not have to deal with.

Earlier this year the Prison Rape Elimination Act regulations put out by the Obama administration acknowledged the increased risk trans prisoners are at and put in place regulations to deal with the problem. Enforcing isolation for all trans prisoners against their will is not a recommended practice for reducing violence.

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  1. Don’t ask about their body in any way when you barely know them. Just because someone is transitioning doesn’t mean you can ask inappropriate questions. When a man asks me if I have breasts or what I’m ‘working with down there’ my first thought is that you don’t need to know because you’ll never be ‘working with anything’ I have.
  2. Don’t ask what their ‘real name’ is. They are not an undercover spy trying to lure you into releasing your government secrets.
  3. Don’t assume that they’re desperate. Although transwomen like every other person may be attractive or unattractive, transwomen are probably a little more uncommon than ciswomen. If they wanted to suck some random guys dick, they could go on craigslist.
  4. Don’t ask to see a picture of them ‘when they were a boy.’ They were never a boy.
  5. Don’t try complimenting them by saying ‘you fooled me!!’ or ‘wow i thot you were a gurl!!’ That’s like seeing a girl you like without her favorite slimming dress on and saying ‘WOW YOU SURE FOOLED ME, I DIDN’T EVEN NOTICE HOW FAT YOU ARE’
  6. Don’t tell them how you ‘aren’t interested in dicks but would let them suck yours.’ Don’t flatter yourself.
  7. Don’t try to convince them as to how you’re ‘straight.’ They’re not thinking you’re gay, and all you’re doing is putting them in a different category than everyone else you’ve ever liked.
  8. Don’t act like they’re just as horny as you are. For most, the hormones lower sex drive. You’re also probably not Hercules.
  9. Don’t act like you’re doing them a favor. Let’s not kid ourselves, you’re the one getting the favor.
  1. Do try to make them feel beautiful.
  2. Do treat them like everyone else, and then treat them better than everyone else when that time comes.
  3. Do act as if you’re interested in them as a person, and not a toy.
  4. Do act like a decent human being.


Cis lesbians, a lot of this applies to you too.

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[Image description: an ask message from mygayshoes to ceasesilence on 7-13-2012. The message says, “Thesafespace network is currently compiling a list of shelters, and safe zones for Trans* and/or Queer Women, with an emphasis on shelters that are safe and respectful to POC, and what is accessible for people with disabilities. We really need submissions and assistance however, as most of us are based in places like Australia. As this rate though, the first half of the list (Which covers North and South America) should be up in a week or two.” Ceasesilence responds, “Thank you! Followers, if you know any shelters or safe zones, please submit to them!” End description.]


With information regarding Safe Zone Shelters Contact

Look. Right now this project is overdue by my standards, and that isn’t acceptable to me. Unfortunately, trying to check, and verify the very EXISTENCE of a shelter, let alone their track record/credibility is difficult. Doing this as a 16 year old from Australia complicates this matter tenfold. 

Which is why I’m asking you guys;

Considering recent events, this is something that needs to be available, but we need submissions and links, we need people even nudging us in the right direction!

Send in whatever you can!

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Wow. Literally the FIRST comment on this article was “what about the men”.

Lady Fig:

What I never hear about: transgender men (female to male). When was the last time anyone paid any attention to them?

I mean WOW. Talk about missing ignoring the point.

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  1. SAKIA GUNN -Lesbian - murder victim
  2. NIREAH [GREGORY] JOHNSON - Trans-woman - murder victim
  3. ANGIE ZAPATA - Trans-woman - murder victim
  4. REBECCA WIGHT - Lesbian - murder victim

Sure everyone knows Brandon Teena, Matthew Shepard and Gwen Araujo ….but they weren’t the only gay, lesbian, trans or bi people BRUTALLY murdered because of hatred.

Now let’s put some names to some all too forgotten faces, shall we? People need to know.

Sakia Gunn: She was only 15 when she was killed. Stabbed for telling a few men who were hitting on her and her teenage girlfriends that they were lesbians and did not appreciate the attention the men were giving them.

Nireah Johnson: Nireah was 17, her and her best friend Brandi  Coleman were out cruising and met two boys at a gas station and exchanged numbers. They later met the boys only to be interrogated about Nireah’s gender identity. When their dates discovered Nireah was pre-op they bound and gagged Nireah and Brandi, shot them, then burned the car their bodies were in.

[picture of Brandie and Nireah as shown by a local newstation, notice how they refused to identify Nireah they way she saw herself and lived…smh].

Angie Zapata: Was killed when she was 18. Angie ‘made the mistake’ of meeting a boy online [mocospace] in 2008….who would later kill her because he was transphobic.  Her killer is quoted as saying in the arrest affidavit,  he thought he had “killed it” before leaving in Zapata’s car with the murder weapon and other incriminating evidence. 

Rebecca Wight: Was killed when she was 28, in 1988. Some of us tumblr users weren’t even thought of then. But her murder shows how indoctrinated in our society [our grandparents, and parent’s generations] homophobia and transphobia are and how it passes from one generation to another. Rebecca was killed when a man fired his gun at her and her partner Claudia. The man had seen the two women camping and had walked into a women’s restroom near their campsite [while Rebecca was nude because she thought no-one else was there]. The women moved, hoping to find somewhere more private. After the couple settled in to their new campsite they began to make love, unbeknownst to them the man they had met earlier was watching them…and then began to fire his rifle into their tent. Rebecca was hit with 7 bullets and would later die…Claudia fortunately survived and ran off to find help.

Because Rebecca’s murder took place over 24 years ago, no pictures of her could be found online.

The Transgender Day of Remembrance website maintains a list of all known (i.e. actually reported in the media) murders against trans people. Virtually all of them are trans women, and a majority are trans women of color.

Bolding mine. It is not a coincidence that LGBT murder victims that DO get national attention are often white males. Brandon Teena was killed for being transgender, but his case is just a drop in an ocean of murders we don’t talk about because we don’t value the lives in POC in general and transwomen of any race are considered abominations. (Gee, misogynistic patriarchy, thanks.)

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i’m talking to all you, my fellow AFAB trans* and queer folks.

i’ve got a couple things to tell you

i was going to say “secrets to let you in on”

but they’re only secretive because no matter how many times someone says them to you, y’all act like you’ve never heard it before, and then promptly forget it as soon as, i don’t know, the sun rotates or something

here we go:

  1. “tr*nny” is not ours to reclaim. it refers to an extremely negative image of trans* women, portrayed and perpetuated by our society. the only reason it is ever used against us is because it likens us to trans* women, which society considers to be negative. therefore, even if it’s been used against you, it’s not because you are a trans*masculine person — it is because being trans means that you are more like trans* women than cis people, and to this world, that is a bad thing.
  2. there is no such thing as “cisphobia” or “anti-cis hate speech” or anything of that caliber. every time one of you claims that someone (especially a trans* woman) says something “hateful” toward cis people, you are literally sucking the patriarchy’s dick like a fucking hoover. this is exactly what the forces in power want you to think: if we’re nice, they’ll give us what we want. that’s your privilege speaking, loud and clear, because you can be nice and suck up to the authorities and get away with whatever you want. CeCe McDonald defended herself, saved herself from being murdered like her other sisters of color by hateful white cis straight people, and she’ll be in jail for almost 4 years for surviving — a plea bargain that was taken because the “trial of her peers” was going to be white cis straight people in order to “prevent any bias.”chew on that next time you tone police a trans* woman.
  3. i know that not all of you are into being radical/queer/or even trans*, and that’s fine, assimilate all you want, i won’t stop you. but do not become part of the system that discriminates against, blatantly hates, robs, rapes, hurts, and kills your sisters (primarily of color) because i will find you and fuck you up.
  4. being trans does not absolve you of all other privileges. if you are white, you have white privilege. when you “pass,” you have privilege, and the reason that we must be constantly reminded to check our privilege is because when we pass as male, we are awarded male privilege.
  5. for those of us who are genderqueer, when we pass as either binary gender, we are awarded cis privileges, because we are not identified as a “gender threat.” and because of our society’s gendered hierarchy, when we, AFAB people, are perceived as masculine, we are not nearly as badly vilified as AMAB people who transcend gender boundaries, so even if you feel the need to say, “but i’m genderqueer/non-binary!” recognize that we are awarded so much more freedom to express ourselves because we are AFAB. i can find plenty of masculine clothing in my size and my department; when was the last time you saw dresses in the men’s department or in sizes that accomodate AMAB bodies?



if you feel like arguing this with me, go right ahead. take your internalized cissexism, transmisogyny, and transphobia out on me. don’t do it to the AMAB trans* bloggers who are already dealing with a shitstorm from the rest of the world. got a problem? bring it here.

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TAL9000: transfeminism: 106-year-old transgender woman speaks at Burma’s first…


106-year-old transgender woman speaks at Burma’s first IDAHO

The first IDAHO in Burma

The 106-year-old transgender woman who addressed the first ever public gay rights rally in Burma must have seen incredible changes in her lifetime, from living under British colonialism to…

So basically, this lady is way cooler than you’ll ever be.

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This blog is aimed at DMAB (that’s designated male at birth) trans people. We’re tired of playing second fiddle to DFAB trans people in the queer community and having our spaces flooded exclusively with pictures and advice about binding, packing, testosterone, how to cultivate facial hair, etc. etc.

So here is a blog for you, DMAB people, where we’re going to be talking about tucking, padding, oestrogen, obliterating facial hair, makeup, clothes, and anything else your cisgender parents didn’t teach you, and your queer community was too busy elsewhere to fill you in on.

Some of the advice here will relate particularly to trans* women to do with passing, going stealth, transitioning and so on, but for the most part we’d hope that our advice will be as helpful to DMAB nonbinary trans* people to consolidate their knowledge on how to express their gender too!

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